My husband and I do not have an active social life! (Not a social butterfly is an understatement!)

**Updated Post** Originally published January 25th, 2019.

In fact, our six year old daughter has a much more busy social calendar than we do!

However, other couples (friends of ours!) don’t do a whole hell of a lot either! I was pleasantly surprised when I learned that we are not the only married couple we know who just stays home most weekends!

Now, please don’t get me wrong, we do things. Grocery shopping, trail walks, tobaggoning (since it’s winter!) – you know, really exciting stuff.

But to have people over (or go to someone else’s place) for dinner, host or attend a party or holiday event, or heaven forbid – actually go on vacation regularly – is not commonplace for us.

I will often go to a couple of girlfriends places for a coffee (or spiked bevvy!) while my daughter is playing with their children. (See the importance of Mom friends post.) But, it’s a rarity for my husband to attend. I will always invite him when I’m going out, but he just stays home and watches TV.

My friends and their husbands will ask “where’s your man?” and I have to come up with an excuse so it doesn’t appear that he’s snobby (which he definitely is not).

More often than not, I enjoy socializing solo. I can have honest and unedited conversations with my friends about anything and everything without judgement from my husband. But, on occasion, I’d like for him to participate as well.

Hubby is a bit shy when consorting with new people and I don’t push him into any situation in which he would feel uncomfortable – but he needs some guy friends too!

He works and comes home – that’s it! And I know it bothers him, but he won’t even try to meet new people.

He does get along with my friends and their spouses, but for him to just call one of them up to hang out or go fishing or something would be out of the norm. I don’t want to force it because that would just cause an issue between us.

But, does that mean I shouldn’t be going out without him? Should I feel bad that he’s at home by himself?

To be perfectly honest, we don’t even have date nights, just the two of us. Unless it’s our anniversary and our daughter is taken care of – we do activities as a family or stay home as a family!

We don’t pawn our child off on other people because we don’t want to burden others. We seldom get a babysitter and my mother-in-law is close-by, but she doesn’t always want her, nor do we feel comfortable asking her a lot.

So, here we are together – NOT a social butterfly! And that’s okay.

The weekend is almost upon us and – what to do?! Since the weather is scheduled to be less than desired (welcome to Ontario Canada!), we may go bowling and let our girl bring a friend for a little more excitement!

Sunday can be a lazy day to do laundry, some light cleaning and prepare for the coming week!

No matter what we do – individually, as a couple or as a family – we’ll have fun making memories and enjoying ourselves and each other – together!